Incite 8/11/2010: No Goal!
The Boss is a saint. Besides putting up with me every day, she recently reconnected with a former student of hers. She taught him in 5th grade and now the kid is 23. He hasn’t had the opportunities that I (or the Boss) had, and she is working with him to help define what he wants to do with his life and the best way to get there. This started me thinking about my own perspectives on goals and achievement. I’m in the middle of a pretty significant transition relative to goal setting and my entire definition of success. I’ve spent most of my life going somewhere, as fast as I can. I’ve always been a compulsive goal setter and list maker. Annually I revisit my life goals, which I set in my 20s. They’ve changed a bit, but not substantially, over the years. Then I’ve tried to structure my activities to move towards those goals on a daily and monthly basis. I fell into the trap that I suspect most of the high achievers out there stumble on: I was so focused on the goal, I didn’t enjoy the achievement. For me, achievement wasn’t something to celebrate. It was something to check off a list. I rarely (if ever) thought about what I had done and patted myself on the back. I just moved to the next thing on the list. Sure, I’ve been reasonably productive throughout my career, but in the grand scheme of things does it even matter if I don’t enjoy it? So I’m trying a new approach. I’m trying to not be so goal oriented. Not long-term goals, anyway. I’d love to get to the point where I don’t need goals. Is that practical? Maybe. I don’t mean tasks or deliverables. I still have clients and I have business partners, who need me to do stuff. My family needs me to provide, so I can’t become a total vagabond and do whatever I feel like every day. Not entirely anyway. I want to be a lot less worried about the destination. I aim to stop fixating on the end goal and then eventually to not aim at all. Kind of like sailing, where the wind takes you where it will and you just go with it. I want to enjoy what I am doing and stop worrying about what I’m not doing. I’ll toss my Gantt chart for making a zillion dollars and embrace the fact that I’m very fortunate to really enjoy what I do every day and who I work with. Like the Zen Habit’s post says, I don’t want to be limited to what my peer group considers success. But it won’t be an easy journey. I know that. I’ll have to rewire my brain. The journey started with a simple action. I put “have no goals” on the top of my list of goals. Yeah, I have a lot of work to do. – Mike. 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