Incite 2/10/2010: Comfortably Numb
You may not know it, but lots of folks you know are zombies. It seems that life has beaten them down, and miraculously two weeks later they don’t say ‘hi’ – they just give you a blank stare and grin as the spittle drips out of the corners of their mouths. Yup, a sure sign they’ve been to see Dr. Feelgood, who heard for an hour how hard their lives are, and as opposed to helping to deal with the pain, they got their friends Prozac, Lexapro, and Zoloft numb it. These billion dollar drugs build on the premise that life is hard, so it’s a good idea to take away the ability to feel because it hurts too much. Basically we, as a society, are increasingly becoming comfortably numb. I’m not one to be (too) judgmental about the personal decisions that some folks make, but this one gets in my craw. My brother once said to me “Life is Pain,” and there is some truth to that statement. Clearly life is hard right now for lots of folks and I feel for them. But our society values quick fixes over addressing the fundamental causes of issues. Just look at your job. If someone came forward with a widget that would get you compliant, you’d buy it. Maybe you already have. And then you realize: there are no short cuts. You’ve got to do the work. Seems to me we don’t do the work anymore. Now, to be clear, some folks are ill and they need anti-depressants. I’ve got no issue with that – in fact I’m thankful that these folks have some options to lead normal lives and not hurt themselves and/or others. It’s the soccer mom (or dad) who is overwhelmed with having to get the kid’s homework done and getting them to baseball practice. That doesn’t make sense to me. I know it’s easier to take a pill than to deal with the problem, but that doesn’t make the problem go away. I guess that’s easy for me to say because thankfully I don’t suffer from depression. Yet, to come clean I spent most of my 20’s medicating in my own way. I got hammered every weekend and sometimes during the week. If I had invested in the market half of what I spent on booze, I wouldn’t be worrying about the mortgage. But I guess that I worry at all about anything is a good sign. Looking back, I was trying to be someone different – the “party guy,” who can drink beer funnels until he pukes and then drink some more. I was good at that. Then I realized how unfulfilling that lifestyle was for me, especially when the doctor informed me I had the liver of a 50 year old. Which is not real good when you are 30. Ten years later, I actually enjoy the ups and downs. OK, I like the ups more than the downs, but I understand that without feeling bad, I can’t appreciate when things are good. I’m getting to the point where I’m choosing what to get pissed off about. And I do still get pissed. But it’s not about everything and I get past my anger a lot faster. Basically, I’m learning how to let it go. If I can’t control it and I didn’t screw it up, there isn’t much I can do – so being pissed off about it isn’t helping anyone. By the way, that doesn’t mean I’m a puritan. I still tip back a few per week and kick out the jams a few times a year. The funnel is still my friend. The difference is I’m not running away from anything. I’m not trying to be someone else. I’m getting into the moment and having fun. There is a big difference. – Mike Photo credit: “Comfortably Numb” originally uploaded by Olivander Incite 4 U One of the advantages of working on a team is that we cover for each other and we are building a strong bench. This week contributor David Mortman put together a couple of pieces. Mort went and got a day job, so he’s been less visible on Securosis, but given his in-depth knowledge of all things (including bread making), we’ll take what we can get. I also want to highlight a post by our “intern” Dave Meier on Misconceptions of a DMZ, in which he dismantles a thought balloon put out there regarding virtualized web browser farms. Meier lives in the trenches every day, so he brings a real practitioner’s perspective to his work for Securosis. It’s About the Boss, Not the Org Chart – My buddy Shack goes on a little rampage here listing the reasons why security shouldn’t report to IT. I’m the first to think in terms of absolutes (the only gray in my life is my hair), but Dave is wrong here. I’m not willing to make a blanket statement about where security should report because it’s more about being empowered than it is about the org chart. If the CIO gets it and can persuade the right folks to do the right thing and support the mission, then it’s all good. If that can happen in the office of the CFO or even CEO, that’s fine too. Dave brings up some interesting points, but unless you have support from the boss, none of it means a damn thing. – MR Rock Stars Are a Liability – It looks like Forrester Research now requires all analysts to shut down their personal blogs, and only blog on the Forrester platform. I started Securosis (the blog) back when I was still working at Gartner, and took advantage of the grey area until they adopted an official policy banning any coverage of IT in personal blogs. That wasn’t why I left the company, but I fully admit that the reception I received while blogging gave me the confidence to jump out there on my own. In a big analyst firm the corporate brand is more